I shall enjoy the view from here in 2014. Making it all happen this coming year.
later.
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
Thursday, September 20, 2012
The one that got away
Yesterday, a friend of mine emailed me and told me he was cleaning up his inbox.He then told me he saw an email I sent him from 2003!
This friend of mine, Jason, is currently in love with a sweet lady named Sam. He told me that he thinks he found in Sam what he is looking for in a life partner.
I think it's sweet. I'm happy for him.
I told him to do not allow himself to say that Sam is someone that got away ...
Now sharing this piece to you all ... May you say to your special someone "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."
The
one that got away
By: Mark J. Macapagal
In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with...and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be
in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it
doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some
reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.
If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you
do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."
By: Mark J. Macapagal
In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with...and the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows.
It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be
in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it
doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some
reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.
If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you
do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Friday, March 23, 2012
Requiem
My sister and I received the bad news that our beloved cousin, Ate Charet, passed yesterday.We both felt an immediate feeling of lose, of emptiness, of regret, of reminiscing memories that keeps her alive at that moment in our hearts.
Death is never easy to accept. One can never be 'ready' to this news, to this reality. I have had some very special people to me passed in the last six years and I know, deep in the cavern of my heart, I'm still grieving. It does get easy as the days, months, as years go by. The pain seems less. But scars remain.
Life is too precious to ignore. Time is too precious to waste. There are so many special people in our lives that we sometimes neglect because of the life we lead, the chaos of our existence somehow diminishes the time we spend to touch base with those who are truly important in our lives: the people who loves us, the people we love, the people who makes us who we are, the people who are there with us in the lowest times and the happiest times. May that be a family, may that be a friend. Be with them. Know them. Keep in touch with them. Tell them and make them feel your presence in their lives as theirs to yours.
Because there might not be any tomorrow left to spare.
Thank you, Ate Charet. You were a cousin, a friend, a confidante. You were someone who believed in me, someone who never fails to love me and understand me. Your presence in my life will be missed.
Now, you are an additional angel in heaven for me and Ate.
later.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Just so ...
.... I can appease a little of the tiny cracks in my heart that was due to the 'bad' but not necessarily surprising news I've got this morning, I'm posting this picture ...
To realize that there are guys like this out there ... and to look at them seems more than enough :-)
later.
Monday, March 19, 2012
Pete
Pete Sampras.I remember the time when I was CRAZY about this guy. I mean CRAZY like to wake up at two in the morning so I can watch at Channel 4 the Wimbledon or the US Open or the French Open. So CRAZY that my first email address was jangsamp and was hopelessly following all the news or any news about this.
There will always be one Pete for me. This is him.
Will always have a special place in my heart for this guy.
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Unhappy
To be unhappy is so easily attained.It is, isn't it? We wake up in the morning, we try our best to choose to be happy on that day and we try it in the afternoon and try it in the evening and at night, before we finally hit our beds, we ask if we have achieved that choice we made early in the morning. Have we been happy?
Then we wake up one morning, we try it again and the next and the next one after that. Endless.
We always TRY to be happy. Yet, being unhappy is so attainable we choose to ignore it and replace it with some feeling we seem to be working so hard to attain every single day.
Why?
If you are unhappy, be unhappy. We sometimes don't necessarily have to choose to be something else or something more than what we are at the moment. The moment we try to revert to something else, we seem to be evading every single time the very essence of who we are; it will never expire, it will never cease to nag us.
I say we be unhappy. Get it all out of our system. Whine.Cry, damn it.
THEN GET OVER.
Maybe then, you will never TRY to be happy one day. Maybe you will truly BE.
later.
Friday, March 09, 2012
Old Lady
I look at this picture and I wonder if I can be as beautiful as this old lady when I grow up.
In my fleeting moments before slumber last night, I thought of how my life will be in the next fifty years. All the times from my 35th year and back and I ask what have I achieved so far that can make me the old lady I am at 85. Contented. Proud. Happy. At Peace.
Have I gone cliff diving as I have always wanted to do?
Have I been to places I have always wanted to visit?
Have I hosted enough dinners with friends and family?
Have I watched my children at the backyard while my husband plays tag with them?
Have I experienced enough sunrise and sunsets with my special some? My husband? My child? My sister? My best friend? A stranger?
Have I told enough stories?
Have I touched someone's life as many someones touched mine?
Have I listened to music to last me a lifetime of melodies?
Have I said enough 'I love yous'?
Have I said enough 'Thank yous'?
Have I said enough 'Please'?
Have I said enough 'Goodbyes'?
Have I said enough 'I forgive'?
Have I had many moments with God?
Have I cried enough?
Have I laughed enough?
Have I danced or sing enough?
Have I prayed enough?
Have I lived my life in which I am expected to live it by my Creator?
Have I had a life fullfilled?
Have I been worthy of the years I was blessed? Of the health I was given? Of the intelligence I have been bestowed? Of the opportunities provided? Of every single moments in my life?
There are just so much blessings that each day brings me. And sometimes, I feel I neglect each moments and allow the rot of life's daily grind to bite me.
I hope of life that is worthy of I was given. I hope of people I have in my life and more of the likes of them than the richness of the world. I hope for the beauty of the earth that no money can buy. I hope of all things that I can learn to live and I can live to learn.
I hope for an old age of no regrets.
I wish and pray and hope for the same to all those who read this blog. May we all live a life with all the sad moments it bring, with all the happy moments it bring but with no moments of regret in the end.
God bless you, my friend --- is what I think the old lady in the picture said.... as she have been blessed in her life.
later.
In my fleeting moments before slumber last night, I thought of how my life will be in the next fifty years. All the times from my 35th year and back and I ask what have I achieved so far that can make me the old lady I am at 85. Contented. Proud. Happy. At Peace.
Have I gone cliff diving as I have always wanted to do?
Have I been to places I have always wanted to visit?
Have I hosted enough dinners with friends and family?
Have I watched my children at the backyard while my husband plays tag with them?
Have I experienced enough sunrise and sunsets with my special some? My husband? My child? My sister? My best friend? A stranger?
Have I told enough stories?
Have I touched someone's life as many someones touched mine?
Have I listened to music to last me a lifetime of melodies?
Have I said enough 'I love yous'?
Have I said enough 'Thank yous'?
Have I said enough 'Please'?
Have I said enough 'Goodbyes'?
Have I said enough 'I forgive'?
Have I had many moments with God?
Have I cried enough?
Have I laughed enough?
Have I danced or sing enough?
Have I prayed enough?
Have I lived my life in which I am expected to live it by my Creator?
Have I had a life fullfilled?
Have I been worthy of the years I was blessed? Of the health I was given? Of the intelligence I have been bestowed? Of the opportunities provided? Of every single moments in my life?
There are just so much blessings that each day brings me. And sometimes, I feel I neglect each moments and allow the rot of life's daily grind to bite me.
I hope of life that is worthy of I was given. I hope of people I have in my life and more of the likes of them than the richness of the world. I hope for the beauty of the earth that no money can buy. I hope of all things that I can learn to live and I can live to learn.
I hope for an old age of no regrets.
I wish and pray and hope for the same to all those who read this blog. May we all live a life with all the sad moments it bring, with all the happy moments it bring but with no moments of regret in the end.
God bless you, my friend --- is what I think the old lady in the picture said.... as she have been blessed in her life.
later.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
If You Ask Me To ...
.... marry you?!
It's February 29, something that comes every four years! And on this day, as the famous tradition from Ireland by St. Bridget who whined to St. Patrick that women are tired of waiting, women are granted license to propose to the man they love.
So ... will you marry me, yes YOU? :-)
later.
It's February 29, something that comes every four years! And on this day, as the famous tradition from Ireland by St. Bridget who whined to St. Patrick that women are tired of waiting, women are granted license to propose to the man they love.
So ... will you marry me, yes YOU? :-)
later.
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Perfectly Right
So since this is THE day of the hearts, humour me and let me tell you what I need and hope for in my man:
He is Michael Holden ... respectable.honorable.true.
He is Roland Burton ... kind.intelligent.understanding.
He is Trevor LeBlanc ... sweet.loving.funny.
He is Frank Sherwood ... strong.brave. faithful.
He is Chase Moran ... tall.sexy.handsome.
Who are these guys?
They all have THE qualities of the man any woman longs, hopes, wishes, prays for. And yes, they are all fictional.
May the man in your life has at least one or two of these guys' qualities.
later.
He is Michael Holden ... respectable.honorable.true.
He is Roland Burton ... kind.intelligent.understanding.
He is Trevor LeBlanc ... sweet.loving.funny.
He is Frank Sherwood ... strong.brave. faithful.
He is Chase Moran ... tall.sexy.handsome.
Who are these guys?
They all have THE qualities of the man any woman longs, hopes, wishes, prays for. And yes, they are all fictional.
May the man in your life has at least one or two of these guys' qualities.
later.
Exactly
This is exactly what I'm talking about.
I wrote in my Twitter account a day ago that most often than not, I ask for what I want instead of what I truly need. Why? Because sometimes, I don't know what I need over what I want.
The video nailed for me what I truly believe I need.
No gift greater than sharing one's self selflessly with someone you love doing exactly what that person loves doing. Whether it's watching the most boring documentary in National Geographic or the constant news in CNN or the cheesiest romcom in HBO.
No need for anything except the time together, sharing each other's lives. No frills. No fancy.
No words can ever describe what truly 'love' is.
But this video did!
I wrote in my Twitter account a day ago that most often than not, I ask for what I want instead of what I truly need. Why? Because sometimes, I don't know what I need over what I want.
The video nailed for me what I truly believe I need.
No gift greater than sharing one's self selflessly with someone you love doing exactly what that person loves doing. Whether it's watching the most boring documentary in National Geographic or the constant news in CNN or the cheesiest romcom in HBO.
No need for anything except the time together, sharing each other's lives. No frills. No fancy.
No words can ever describe what truly 'love' is.
But this video did!
... Thanks for this Google! :-)
Happy Heart's Day, Y'all! :-)
later.
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